Having them say “We’re all alone here” before they have sex, and then say the next thought, helps them get in touch with what they’re feeling, and is likely to bring up stuff they have been suppressing. The wife may say, “We’re all alone here,” and then, “Oh, God—now I have to depend on you\” The husband may say, “We’re all alone here,” and then, “Oh, God—now I’ll have to put up with your nagging!”
During the course of the weekend they will be forced in this way to confront many issues that have lain dormant. In addition, by having sex in new ways, they will be forced to work through sexual phobias that have served as defenses against intimacy, and this will in turn force them to confront even more issues. Hence the channels of intimacy, passion, and communication will be opened.
If they cannot “succeed” with the game the first time, and call the agent to pick them up, they can try the routine again until they get it. Such weekends may be repeated as needed, and may be combined with other games in this book.
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